Why Gottman Method? Proven Techniques for Lasing Relationships. 

The Gottman Method of couples counseling is based on the results of research that observed thousands of couples since the 1970s.  The results of the research can predict with 96% accuracy which newlyweds will eventually get divorced.  This prediction is based on nine main characteristics of the relationship.  The good news is that I teach and coach couples through practical, actionable tools designed to help with these areas:  communication and conflict resolution, daily emotional connection, responding to each others needs, appreciation and respect, discovering and supporting each others life aspirations, defining roles, friendship and getting to know each other again, and intimacy.

Whether looking to prepare for marriage, navigate a major life transition, repair infidelity and past hurts, or simply to reconnect, I offer a supportive space to build a more resilient, thriving relationship.

What to Expect:

The first few sessions, we will be assessing the problem areas of the relationship jointly and in a solo session.  To save time and money, I offer an depth questionnaire that can be filled out at home (the clinician version of the Relationship Checkup).

Gottman therapy is different from other kinds of therapy.  I view my role more as a coach, and less as a jury.  I understand that there are two sides to every issue and I do not take a side.  In the sessions, I provide guidance in helping couples use the new tools on real life challenges in the relationship.  My goal is to teach couples to work through things on their own so that they no longer need counseling.

Why me? 

I SPECIALIZE in couples counseling.  Did you know that to be licensed as a "Marriage and Family Therapist" in California, Associates only need 500 of 3000 hours to be direct counseling experience with couples, families or children? That means, that a LMFT might have only had counseling experience with families and children, but NO experience working with couples.  For me, couples work is not just a specialty; it is a focus.  With hundreds of hours of advanced, specialized training, I bring extensive expertise to helping partners navigate complex challenges and rebuild connection.  In addition to Gottman techniques, whenever helpful to a particular couple, I incorporate my knowledge of Attachment, Emotion Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy.

If couple is not sure about the future of their relationship and is considering separation, divorce or break-up I can assist with Relationship Discernment Counseling.  This may be a good step before committing to weekly couples counseling.